Whether an addiction be to cigarettes or food, the feelings experienced when trying to abstain from our 'poisons' are predictably similar.
It starts with a mild sense of discomfort. This discomfort escalates into a feeling of unease and anxiety which rapidly worsens as we try to 'resist' our urges. We feel restless and agitated; 'itching' for something. As this feeling becomes more acute, the focus in our minds tunnels to that which we have told ourselves we cannot have. Whether our craving be for cigarettes or food or anything else, our mind begins to obsess about that 'precious' desire.
The object of our desire becomes all consuming to the extent that we are not really aware of the tension we are experiencing in our body. When we argue with ourselves in our heads, the conflict generates tension within our bodies and the simplest trick we can learn to beat cravings, is to learn how to relax our bodies completely at will.
This takes daily practice to get right, but once mastered, is a trick which we can utilise in many other situations where we are experiencing unhelpful stress. The way it works is very simple; learn to recognise the initial sense of mild discomfort and actively release the tension by consciously relaxing the body. When the tension is released, the craving will be released. At this point, and in this relaxed state, we can then utilise the human capacity for 'self-talk' in a positive way to re-direct the focus of our minds.
Hypnotherapy is an excellent tool for learning how to relax properly and re-gain control over our 'self-talk'. This enables us to train our minds to work for us rather than against us and enables us to extinguish cravings before they are able to hijack our minds.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham is based in Arnold, Nottingham and offers a free 20 minute consultation. If there is a change you want to make in your life, but are unsure of your ability to reach your goals, give Nottingham Hypnotherapist Liz Anderson call on 0115 9206005.
Saturday, 25 September 2010
Tuesday, 14 September 2010
CHANGE
If you could change one thing in your life, what would it be? Would it be a small change, or would you prefer a more sweeping change with far reaching positive consequences? Most of us want to change some aspects of our lives. Perhaps a more appropriate question would be, 'what's stopping you'?
Change is a fact of life. We see change all around us; the weather changes with the seasons and the plants change with the weather. Many of us resist change, prefering to stick with the devil we know, but really, resisting change is pointless, because change is a fact of life. A reality for all of us.
You will have changed many times in your life. You changed from a baby to a toddler, from a toddler to a school child and from a child to an adult. People have entered your world, and people have moved on. You may have changed your friends many times. You may have changed your employer, or you may have changed the whole direction of your life. Perhaps it would be more accurate to say that we only resist change which we ourselves have not brought into being.
Regardless, change is as predictable as taxes and the cycle of change continues throughout adulthood. The happiest people are those who embrace change, even if it is not a change which they themselves have chosen to make. This is because they have the wisdom to recognise the signal to move forward. They accept the inevitability of difference and they willingly adjust their position to accommodate the new; relaxed and comfortable with the shifting sands and optimistic for the future.
If there is some aspect of your life that you want to change, you can allow yourself to embrace making that change. A change which you yourself are actively bringing into being. A positive change instigated by you, for your greater good. Maybe, an exciting change, because you are taking control and respecting yourself and looking after your own best interests.
One small change can make a big difference over time, and change is a process that is constantly evolving. Resisting change is often a pointless act, but how much more empowering when we actively pursue those changes that can make a beneficial impact on our lives.
If there is a change you want to make, hypnotherapy can help. Actively seeking out those changes which need to be made is an empowering thing to do. Not all changes are easy to make but the act of making them and succeeding can boost both your self confidence and your self esteem. You can allow yourself to be proud of your courage and inspired by your wisdom. The future is not written and you can assume control of the direction of your life.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham is based in Arnold, Nottingham and offers a free 20 minute consultation. If there is a change you want to make in your life, but are unsure of your ability to reach your goals, give Nottingham Hypnotherapist Liz Anderson call on 0115 9206005.
Change is a fact of life. We see change all around us; the weather changes with the seasons and the plants change with the weather. Many of us resist change, prefering to stick with the devil we know, but really, resisting change is pointless, because change is a fact of life. A reality for all of us.
You will have changed many times in your life. You changed from a baby to a toddler, from a toddler to a school child and from a child to an adult. People have entered your world, and people have moved on. You may have changed your friends many times. You may have changed your employer, or you may have changed the whole direction of your life. Perhaps it would be more accurate to say that we only resist change which we ourselves have not brought into being.
Regardless, change is as predictable as taxes and the cycle of change continues throughout adulthood. The happiest people are those who embrace change, even if it is not a change which they themselves have chosen to make. This is because they have the wisdom to recognise the signal to move forward. They accept the inevitability of difference and they willingly adjust their position to accommodate the new; relaxed and comfortable with the shifting sands and optimistic for the future.
If there is some aspect of your life that you want to change, you can allow yourself to embrace making that change. A change which you yourself are actively bringing into being. A positive change instigated by you, for your greater good. Maybe, an exciting change, because you are taking control and respecting yourself and looking after your own best interests.
One small change can make a big difference over time, and change is a process that is constantly evolving. Resisting change is often a pointless act, but how much more empowering when we actively pursue those changes that can make a beneficial impact on our lives.
If there is a change you want to make, hypnotherapy can help. Actively seeking out those changes which need to be made is an empowering thing to do. Not all changes are easy to make but the act of making them and succeeding can boost both your self confidence and your self esteem. You can allow yourself to be proud of your courage and inspired by your wisdom. The future is not written and you can assume control of the direction of your life.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham is based in Arnold, Nottingham and offers a free 20 minute consultation. If there is a change you want to make in your life, but are unsure of your ability to reach your goals, give Nottingham Hypnotherapist Liz Anderson call on 0115 9206005.
Sunday, 12 September 2010
THE BLIGHT OF NARCISSISM
Narcissistic people are self-absorbed to the point that they fail to recognise the feelings and worth of others. Living and working with such people takes its toll if you haven't the strength and self-belief to rise above the narcissist's behaviour and maintain your own sense of self-worth.
Do you regularly find yourself experiencing the following emotions and feelings when in the company of certain people?:
* Frustrated
* Angry
* Belittled
* Worthless
* Fearful
* Doubtful
* Guilty
* Shameful
* Disrespected
* Undermined.
Narcissists always know best and those who do not accept their superior judgement are perceived to be 'wrong' and 'flawed'. Moreover, narcissists feel compelled to 'prove' to others exactly what it is that makes their position or beliefs 'wrong' in the narcissist's eyes and will resort to a variety of manipulative tactics to bully their 'opponent' into submission.
Existing alongside such people can be an extremely draining and emotionally fraught experience if your core sense of self-worth is not solid and impervious to their adamant insistence that they are right and you are wrong. Constant exposure to their demanding and inherently selfish ways can drag you down to the point that you begin to doubt your competence and ability to make even the most basic decisions without the narcissist's approval.
If you feel that your life is out of control - that you have been 'battered' into accepting someone else's blueprint for living at the expense of your own ideals, or if your home-life is a battlefield of demands versus resistance, help is available.
Hypnotherapy cannot help you to change a narcissist or make them see the error of their ways. It can, however, assist you in learning how to better manage your relationship with such people in a way that benefits your emotional health and which ultimately will bring positive change to the way you feel about yourself and your place in the world.
Do you regularly find yourself experiencing the following emotions and feelings when in the company of certain people?:
* Frustrated
* Angry
* Belittled
* Worthless
* Fearful
* Doubtful
* Guilty
* Shameful
* Disrespected
* Undermined.
Narcissists always know best and those who do not accept their superior judgement are perceived to be 'wrong' and 'flawed'. Moreover, narcissists feel compelled to 'prove' to others exactly what it is that makes their position or beliefs 'wrong' in the narcissist's eyes and will resort to a variety of manipulative tactics to bully their 'opponent' into submission.
Existing alongside such people can be an extremely draining and emotionally fraught experience if your core sense of self-worth is not solid and impervious to their adamant insistence that they are right and you are wrong. Constant exposure to their demanding and inherently selfish ways can drag you down to the point that you begin to doubt your competence and ability to make even the most basic decisions without the narcissist's approval.
If you feel that your life is out of control - that you have been 'battered' into accepting someone else's blueprint for living at the expense of your own ideals, or if your home-life is a battlefield of demands versus resistance, help is available.
Hypnotherapy cannot help you to change a narcissist or make them see the error of their ways. It can, however, assist you in learning how to better manage your relationship with such people in a way that benefits your emotional health and which ultimately will bring positive change to the way you feel about yourself and your place in the world.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham offers a wide range of Hypnotherapy Services & Products designed to help you achieve your goals. For more information please contact Renew Hypnotherapy on 0115 9206005 to book your free 20 minute consultation.
UNDERSTANDING NARCISSISM
Narcissism is about self-absorption. So great is the narcissist's need for validation that they fail to recognise that ALL people are worthy of respect and consideration. The only thing that matters to a narcissist is that THEY are heard and respected.
From the moment that we are born we become the centre of someone's universe. We accept and expect our needs to be met and for the vast majority of us, our BASIC needs will have been met. We will have been regularly fed, changed, clothed and provided with toys. Narcissism tends to become a behaviour pattern when our emotional needs are ignored or rejected.
All human beings are born selfish. The ability to see beyond our own needs and consider the needs of others develops as we mature. Consider the toddler who sees another child playing with a toy that they want to have. They will shamelessly snatch the toy from the other child's hand and will only refrain from such actions when their behaviour has been corrected.
However, the correction can be done lovingly - which respects the value of the child's worth, or it can be done angrily - which will shame the child and diminish their self-worth. When shame and guilt are regularly used to discourage unwanted behaviour, children receive the message that they are 'bad' and they often grow into adults with a powerful need for validation from those around them. Lack of attention also creates a need to be noticed and heard.
Narcissism often results when people have been subjected to an upbringing where their sense of self-worth has been consistently diminished, but where they have angrily resisted the implied message of worthlessness on a conscious level, even if they have accepted it on a sub-conscious level. From this anger, whether it is expressed aggressively or passively; stems a need for control.
Narcissists do not see themselves the same way that others do. In their eyes, their attitudes and behaviours are justified. They believe whole-heartedly that they are right and that anybody who does not agree with them is wrong. However, as with many things in life, there are degrees of distortion. Some people can be heavily narcissistic; demonstrating an over-whelming need to control everything and everyone around them, whilst others may only be mildly narcissistic; needing to control their immediate surroundings and possibly resenting the need to consider the wants of others, but having the wisdom to know when to shut up, even if they don't agree and do not respect what they are hearing.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham is committed to helping people achieve their goals through Hypnotherapy. For more information please Call 0115 9206005 or contact Renew Hypnotherapy through our website to book a free initial 20 minute consultation.
From the moment that we are born we become the centre of someone's universe. We accept and expect our needs to be met and for the vast majority of us, our BASIC needs will have been met. We will have been regularly fed, changed, clothed and provided with toys. Narcissism tends to become a behaviour pattern when our emotional needs are ignored or rejected.
All human beings are born selfish. The ability to see beyond our own needs and consider the needs of others develops as we mature. Consider the toddler who sees another child playing with a toy that they want to have. They will shamelessly snatch the toy from the other child's hand and will only refrain from such actions when their behaviour has been corrected.
However, the correction can be done lovingly - which respects the value of the child's worth, or it can be done angrily - which will shame the child and diminish their self-worth. When shame and guilt are regularly used to discourage unwanted behaviour, children receive the message that they are 'bad' and they often grow into adults with a powerful need for validation from those around them. Lack of attention also creates a need to be noticed and heard.
Narcissism often results when people have been subjected to an upbringing where their sense of self-worth has been consistently diminished, but where they have angrily resisted the implied message of worthlessness on a conscious level, even if they have accepted it on a sub-conscious level. From this anger, whether it is expressed aggressively or passively; stems a need for control.
Narcissists do not see themselves the same way that others do. In their eyes, their attitudes and behaviours are justified. They believe whole-heartedly that they are right and that anybody who does not agree with them is wrong. However, as with many things in life, there are degrees of distortion. Some people can be heavily narcissistic; demonstrating an over-whelming need to control everything and everyone around them, whilst others may only be mildly narcissistic; needing to control their immediate surroundings and possibly resenting the need to consider the wants of others, but having the wisdom to know when to shut up, even if they don't agree and do not respect what they are hearing.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham is committed to helping people achieve their goals through Hypnotherapy. For more information please Call 0115 9206005 or contact Renew Hypnotherapy through our website to book a free initial 20 minute consultation.
Wednesday, 8 September 2010
ANGER
Anger is an important emotion that exists to protect us. However, it can be damaging, to both our health and our relationships, if we do not use it wisely.
For some people, anger becomes a dominant aspect of their personalities - the impulse to protect is so great that it takes over - sometimes at the expense of more rational and logical aspects of their personality. Many people who experience outbursts of rage often know that their reaction has been out of proportion once they have had the opportunity to calm down.
The important thing to recognise about anger is that whilst any single outburst may have been an excessive over-reaction that was not warranted, the ROOT CAUSE of that person's anger, which led them to construct their aggressive armour plating, would most definitely have been justified.
Ideally, when we feel angry about something, our response would be to take an assertive position. We would express the reason for our anger in a calm no-nonsense way.
For those whom anger has become a dominant aspect of their personality, the response will usually be aggressive. Their anger will be very near the surface and will be vented like a blast of steam from an old-fashioned locomotive. This venting provides a release for them, but often alienates the recipient of their fury.
There is also a third response which is often not associated with anger - passivity. Most people who are passive are not recognised as being capable of anger, whether it be expressed in a healthy way or inappropriately, however, this response is just as damaging to our health as steaming rage. Passive people tend to be extremely negative in their outlook and the cause of that passivity is usually repressed anger.
Anger should not be denied or considered undesirable. It is an important aspect of our personalities which provides a protective role. However, if your response to experiencing anger is not to express it assertively, you have much to gain by understanding why you respond the way you do and learning an alternative response.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham can help you to achieve this. If the quality of your daily life is being affected by either excessive anger, or passivity, contact Renew Hypnotherapy today to book a free initial 20 minute consultation. Telephone: 0115 9206005.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham is based in Arnold, Nottingham and offers a free initial 20 minute consultation. Read about Liz Anderson, Hypnotherapist Nottingham.
For some people, anger becomes a dominant aspect of their personalities - the impulse to protect is so great that it takes over - sometimes at the expense of more rational and logical aspects of their personality. Many people who experience outbursts of rage often know that their reaction has been out of proportion once they have had the opportunity to calm down.
The important thing to recognise about anger is that whilst any single outburst may have been an excessive over-reaction that was not warranted, the ROOT CAUSE of that person's anger, which led them to construct their aggressive armour plating, would most definitely have been justified.
Ideally, when we feel angry about something, our response would be to take an assertive position. We would express the reason for our anger in a calm no-nonsense way.
For those whom anger has become a dominant aspect of their personality, the response will usually be aggressive. Their anger will be very near the surface and will be vented like a blast of steam from an old-fashioned locomotive. This venting provides a release for them, but often alienates the recipient of their fury.
There is also a third response which is often not associated with anger - passivity. Most people who are passive are not recognised as being capable of anger, whether it be expressed in a healthy way or inappropriately, however, this response is just as damaging to our health as steaming rage. Passive people tend to be extremely negative in their outlook and the cause of that passivity is usually repressed anger.
Anger should not be denied or considered undesirable. It is an important aspect of our personalities which provides a protective role. However, if your response to experiencing anger is not to express it assertively, you have much to gain by understanding why you respond the way you do and learning an alternative response.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham can help you to achieve this. If the quality of your daily life is being affected by either excessive anger, or passivity, contact Renew Hypnotherapy today to book a free initial 20 minute consultation. Telephone: 0115 9206005.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham is based in Arnold, Nottingham and offers a free initial 20 minute consultation. Read about Liz Anderson, Hypnotherapist Nottingham.
THE FACETS OF PERSONALITY
Every Human Being's personality is multi-faceted. Every aspect of our personalities performs a function and the combination of all these different aspects creates a persona which we 'put out' into the world.
How many different 'heads' do you wear during the course, not only of your life, but throughout your daily existence? The happiest and most successful people have many 'heads' that will be inter-changed throughout the course of any given day, without them actively giving much thought to what they are doing.
A man may wear his 'office head' when at work and then go home where he will automatically adopt his 'husband head' and 'father head'. If he goes out that evening with his mates, he will probably wear a different 'head' again.
How we address others, is usually dictated by the situation and the existing relationship between the people interacting. The number of 'heads' we have at our disposal, reflects the abundance, or lack of resources, which we have available to us on a daily basis to navigate our way through life and its challenges.
If you always come across as being the same, in any situation, your life may be limited and you may experience life as un-comfortable. For example, a man who speaks to his colleagues in the same tone of voice that he uses with his young children may not be too popular! Likewise, a man who speaks to his boss in the same way that he interacts with his peers may have similar problems if his boss is not also a friend.
As with most things in life, balance is the key. The more you develop the various aspects of your personality, the greater the wealth of resources you will have at your disposal to navigate a productive, comfortable and successful life.
If life does not feel comfortable, hypnotherapy can help you to discover where the problem may lie and assist you in developing those aspects of your personality that can improve your experience.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham is based in Arnold, Nottingham and offers a free initial 20 minute consultation. Read about Nottingham Hypnotherapist Liz Anderson or Telephone: 0115 9206005.
How many different 'heads' do you wear during the course, not only of your life, but throughout your daily existence? The happiest and most successful people have many 'heads' that will be inter-changed throughout the course of any given day, without them actively giving much thought to what they are doing.
A man may wear his 'office head' when at work and then go home where he will automatically adopt his 'husband head' and 'father head'. If he goes out that evening with his mates, he will probably wear a different 'head' again.
How we address others, is usually dictated by the situation and the existing relationship between the people interacting. The number of 'heads' we have at our disposal, reflects the abundance, or lack of resources, which we have available to us on a daily basis to navigate our way through life and its challenges.
If you always come across as being the same, in any situation, your life may be limited and you may experience life as un-comfortable. For example, a man who speaks to his colleagues in the same tone of voice that he uses with his young children may not be too popular! Likewise, a man who speaks to his boss in the same way that he interacts with his peers may have similar problems if his boss is not also a friend.
As with most things in life, balance is the key. The more you develop the various aspects of your personality, the greater the wealth of resources you will have at your disposal to navigate a productive, comfortable and successful life.
If life does not feel comfortable, hypnotherapy can help you to discover where the problem may lie and assist you in developing those aspects of your personality that can improve your experience.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham is based in Arnold, Nottingham and offers a free initial 20 minute consultation. Read about Nottingham Hypnotherapist Liz Anderson or Telephone: 0115 9206005.
Tuesday, 7 September 2010
CONFIDENCE
We are all born with an abundance of confidence. Observe any toddler as they explore their surroundings. They are interested and fearless in their pursuit of knowledge and understanding. Observe any young child as they learn to walk. Falling over does not deter them. They have no concept of 'failure'.
Lack of confidence is an acquired state of mind. Maybe we have been laughed at or mocked when making unsuccessful attempts at any given activity. Maybe we have been told that we will never achieve our stated goals, and have lost the will to strive, for fear of ridicule. Loss of self-esteem accompanies negative learned beliefs and this loss can become more pronounced if it is allowed to continue and more 'proof' is found of our inability to succeed.
However, we are also born with courage. In fact, any attribute that we require to assist us through life, is available to us. All we have to do is locate that source within ourselves and actively develop it.
Hypnotherapy can assist you in finding and releasing the emotions that have blocked the development of your natural confidence. Alternatively, there are a number of techniques that can be employed to assist you in building on the confidence that you already have, to improve the quality of your experience both now and in the future.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham is based in Arnold, Nottingham and is committed to helping our clients reach their full potential. Call 0115 9206005 to book a free initial 20 minute consultation.
Lack of confidence is an acquired state of mind. Maybe we have been laughed at or mocked when making unsuccessful attempts at any given activity. Maybe we have been told that we will never achieve our stated goals, and have lost the will to strive, for fear of ridicule. Loss of self-esteem accompanies negative learned beliefs and this loss can become more pronounced if it is allowed to continue and more 'proof' is found of our inability to succeed.
However, we are also born with courage. In fact, any attribute that we require to assist us through life, is available to us. All we have to do is locate that source within ourselves and actively develop it.
Hypnotherapy can assist you in finding and releasing the emotions that have blocked the development of your natural confidence. Alternatively, there are a number of techniques that can be employed to assist you in building on the confidence that you already have, to improve the quality of your experience both now and in the future.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham is based in Arnold, Nottingham and is committed to helping our clients reach their full potential. Call 0115 9206005 to book a free initial 20 minute consultation.
Friday, 3 September 2010
Hypnosis is designed to access a persons subconscious mind and is a communication process that takes place in a trance state. Hypnosis is often misunderstood, both in relation to what it is, and what it involves.
Unfortunately frequent missunderstandings in films, books and the media is due to this uncertainty, which have lead to many people fearing the ‘power‘s of hypnosis.
Nevertheless, hypnosis is by no means brain washing. Hypnosis can in fact heighten awareness and at no time is an individual out of control in trance. A hypnotherapist cannot instigate a person to do or say anything that they don´t want. Hypnosis is a method of communication that can influence the person by the use of positive suggestion. It is no more manipulative than traditional advertising, and as with advertising, the recipient still has the choice of whether to accept the message or to reject it.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham offers a wide range of Hypnotherapy Services & Products. Why not contact Renew Hypnotherapy on 0115 9206005 to see how we can help you achieve your goals today.
Wednesday, 1 September 2010
Does Hypnotherapy Work?
As Hypnotherapist's we are often faced with this question. The answer is Yes - Hypnotherapy can help you and is extremely powerful. Organisations have been maximising the power of suggestion through advertising for many years, who also spend millions every year to promote their businesses through marketing, because they know it works.
There are many misconceptions about Hypnotherapy and they exist because of the misrepresentations that are made in media such as books, films and TV. All of these media are absorbed by people whilst in a light trance state. A small number of people who have never used hypnotherapy have a true understanding of what hypnotic trance actually is. Some people have been led to believe that it is something bewitching or dangerous and it is human nature to misconstrue what we don’t understand. However, this clearly confirms how powerful the power of suggestion can be, when the minds receiving it, are open to possibility.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham offers a wide range of Hypnotherapy Services & Products. Why not contact Renew Hypnotherapy on 0115 9206005 to see how we can help you achieve your goals today.
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