ANGER

Anger is an important emotion that exists to protect us. However, it can be damaging, to both our health and our relationships, if we do not use it wisely.

For some people, anger becomes a dominant aspect of their personalities - the impulse to protect is so great that it takes over - sometimes at the expense of more rational and logical aspects of their personality. Many people who experience outbursts of rage often know that their reaction has been out of proportion once they have had the opportunity to calm down.

The important thing to recognise about anger is that whilst any single outburst may have been an excessive over-reaction that was not warranted, the ROOT CAUSE of that person's anger, which led them to construct their aggressive armour plating, would most definitely have been justified.

Ideally, when we feel angry about something, our response would be to take an assertive position. We would express the reason for our anger in a calm no-nonsense way.

For those whom anger has become a dominant aspect of their personality, the response will usually be aggressive. Their anger will be very near the surface and will be vented like a blast of steam from an old-fashioned locomotive. This venting provides a release for them, but often alienates the recipient of their fury.

There is also a third response which is often not associated with anger - passivity. Most people who are passive are not recognised as being capable of anger, whether it be expressed in a healthy way or inappropriately, however, this response is just as damaging to our health as steaming rage. Passive people tend to be extremely negative in their outlook and the cause of that passivity is usually repressed anger.

Anger should not be denied or considered undesirable. It is an important aspect of our personalities which provides a protective role. However, if your response to experiencing anger is not to express it assertively, you have much to gain by understanding why you respond the way you do and learning an alternative response.

Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham can help you to achieve this. If the quality of your daily life is being affected by either excessive anger, or passivity, contact Renew Hypnotherapy today to book a free initial 20 minute consultation. Telephone: 0115 9206005.
Renew Hypnotherapy Nottingham is based in Arnold, Nottingham and offers a free initial 20 minute consultation. Read about Liz Anderson, Hypnotherapist Nottingham.